Author and businessman, Tim Brown, knew what it was like to live The American Dream. But then everything came crashing down. A number of years ago, amidst his struggling marriage, the collapse of his ventures and his declining health, Tim contemplated ending his life while on a business trip. He spotted a location on the roof of the hotel he was staying and pondered his jump. In a fascinating interview I did with him – which captures the essence of his book Jumping Into The Parade: The Leap of Faith that Made My Broken Life Worth Living - Tim discusses how these struggles helped him truly live, take chances and become the person he really wanted to be.
You talk in your book about becoming a millionaire by age 30 with a beautiful wife, a young son and all the trappings of success. But then things in your life started to head in a less than favorable direction. Talk to us about this
I think there are a lot of messages baked into that question. For starters, I believe the real problems we face can’t be fixed with money. This is something that we all learn at different points in our life. Just looking back at becoming a millionaire at 30, I am often reminded that whenever you connect your worth to a scoreboard, you have fallen into a really dangerous trap.
So where did ‘money’ come into this equation?
Personally, making money was never about me being rich, and it still isn’t. It has always been about not being poor. Those are two very different mindsets.
Can you elaborate on that?
Glad to. As I look back, I can honestly say that money for me was about security and safety. So much of my life was based on choices that my parents made, involving frequent family moves which left me feeling unsafe and disconnected. To me, money represents the type of security and stability that has allowed me not to be at the mercy of another person’s decisions. Moreover, it helped set the course for my own value proposition here on earth in that it kinda proved to the world that I had worth.
And as I recall from the book, you struggled with depression?
I sure did. The depth of this depression hit me hard when I was in my late 30’s. Everything I had worked on in my 20’s was successful. And I also did really well with a lot of what I worked on in my 30’s. But then the demands of my businesses really started to take their toll, and it was only a matter of time before the powder keg went off.
What about self-worth?
It is important for all of us to remember that our self-worth is not necessarily connected to our work life. Your worth is about your character and your capacity for learning, serving, helping others and growing your soul. It can be a real wake-up call when we find that the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is empty and that we have spent much of our life being on this quest. For me as a kid, I envisioned marrying a beautiful wife, having a family, a great house and security and that all of this would be delivered through money. While money certainly helps for sure, I’ve seen just as many people with a lot of money live unfulfilled lives. It can corrupt people because they let it become their God. And it can become an enabler of ego which can cloud one’s judgement and humility.